Military Weddings: The Ten Commandments

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Allow me to introduce myself:

My name is Jessica Mace. I’m the owner of DeLovely Events–an event planning business giving special attention and consideration to planning Military weddings. I’m recently married to my soldier, and know how frustrating the process can be! For my first series, I’m going to talk to you about ten commandments for planning a Military wedding.

Commandment 10: Involve thy Service Member, to the extent they wish.

One of things that I remember most vividly from my planning process was towards the beginning. I was texting with my husband, and I asked what he wanted input on. I explained that with the nature of our relationship, it wasn’t really going to be possible for him to be a part of everything. His response?

“Music, Food, Honeymoon.” ┬áMen.

I highly encourage ALL couples to define this before the planning process goes into overdrive. Too often, the wedding industry assumes that all grooms want to be uninvolved. Not true! There is such a thing as a ‘Groom-zilla’–the best way to ensure yours doesn’t go too far? Having you both define what he wants to be most involved in.

This does not, however, give you permission to run solo in whatever he decides he’s not into. You still need to consult, and ask opinions on everything else-it just helps you direct where you focus efforts.

The real trick is in how you involve him when he’s deployed, at training, or otherwise not there. Do you have Skype? Email? Letters? Text Messages? Use it. I would text pictures of cakes to my husband to see if he liked them. I let him take complete charge of the honeymoon — he picked everything from location to length to resort. ┬áMusic? I picked the provider, but he and I created the playlist together, just days before the wedding.

Above all, remember in all planning that this is just one day. It is a very important day, it is a very special day, but at the end of it all, it’s a day. All that matters is at the end, you’re married to a wonderful person. Focus on that, and everything else falls into place.

Stay tuned for Commandment 9: Know Thy Personality

You can be the life of the party! XO

Jessica Mace

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One Response to “Military Weddings: The Ten Commandments”

  1. Leslie says:

    You so impress me lil! You are going to be absolutely wondeful for the Army community and world at large! You will go very far!

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